Filed under: adoption | Tags: adoptee, adoption, birthfather, family, relationship, reunion, search
I contacted my birthfather again ~ this is what I said….
Ray ~
It was good to hear back from you. I’m sorry you aren’t feeling well. You had mentioned that one of your daughters was sick as well ~ I hope she is ok. Do you have more than one daughter?
I am not one to give up easily, because I feel that we are all on a journey in this life. It might not take us where we would like, but it takes us there none the less. It is important for me to find out who I am.
Since Eileen is convinced that you are my birthfather and you won’t respond to my request for basic information, I would like to suggest that we verify or refute the facts in a formal/scientific way.
I would like to request that you take a DNA test in order to know the truth once and for all. I can take care of all the arrangements for the test.
If this is something you are not comfortable with, then please provide me with the basic medical, genetic and family information that I previously requested.
Again, I don’t want anything from you, but this basic information.
Attached is a picture of myself, hopefully you can see it this time…
If not you can see my picture on my facebook profile at http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=home#/profile.php?id=1484440614&ref=nam e
~ Julie
Filed under: adoption | Tags: adoptee, adoption, birthmother, facebook, family, grandfather, mother, reunion, search, tree
I’ve now connected with members of my birth grandfather’s family ~ my birth mother’s father’s family. This is a picture of my great grandmother, his mother. I’ve connected with the family through Facebook and Geni. They even added me to their family tree. This is a big deal. I’ve always felt a disconnect between the family tree experience and my adoptive family. I felt that I had a relationship to those I knew, but when it came to distant ancestors, I just couldn’t find a connection. When seeing the ancestors in this family, I am moved. I am also moved by being in contact with those who are alive. Thank you internet!
Filed under: Creativity, adoption | Tags: adoptee, adoption, art, artist, birthmother, hy roth, reunion
I finally found out that the one artist in my family is alive! We lived in proximity to each other for years, but I never knew of him. I’ve been in touch with a friend of his who is an art director. I wrote about him in a couple of earlier posts – http://eilujion.wordpress.com/2007/09/22/artist-in-the-family/#comments & http://eilujion.wordpress.com/2009/03/03/job-near-birthmother-and-extended-family/
I found his daughter and also found out that he was in a nursing home. His friend went to visit him, printing out a picture that my birthmother had gotten from him when she was 10yrs old and had saved all these years. The picture on this post is of him drawing with a printout of the picture my birthmother had saved.
This is what his friend wrote after visiting:
Julie,
I visited Hy today. He appeared glad to see me, but it’s very difficult to understand what he’s saying. I know he understands me.
I brought him the art supplies and got him draw something for you and asked him to sign it ‘For Julie’ and he did.
I think written communication would be best. I told him all about you but I’m not really sure he understood it all. I gave him the drawing he gave your mother, you can see it in the bottom photo.
Why don’t you write him and tell him the whole story. I’m sure he would be excited to know. And encourage him to draw. He hasn’t been drawing.
When I mentioned Tracy, he seemed to get a little sad. Guess he misses not seeing her.
Sol
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Filed under: Synchronicity, adoption | Tags: adoptee, adoption, birthmother, facebook, reunion
Way back in December, I applied for a job in Colorado which had come to me in a round about way. I hadn’t been applying for jobs, but the description of this one was wonderful and it was right in proximity to my birthfamily. Since then I’ve had a couple of phone interviews and today I received an e-mail that they want to fly me out for an in person interview at the end of the month. I feel like this is such a miracle and I’m totally overwhelmed. To live in proximity to my birthfamily would be pretty incredible.
I’ve also been on a search for a cousin in the family who is an artist. This is a link to an earlier entry on the topic. I ended up meeting with a colleague of his who showed me a lot of different kinds of illustration work he created. His colleague had said that he hadn’t heard from him in a while and was concerned about him. He knew that he had a daughter. After that meeting, I started searching for his daughter and recently found her. I also found out that he is still alive. I am waiting to hear back from her to see where all of his artwork is and if it is archived. She wrote this on my Facebook wall ~ Hi, long lost cousin Julie, gosh you do look alot like the family. I am just awe struck. Please send me e-mails when you can. I want to get to know you better.
The image attached to this post is one of his illustrations.
